Relationships and Money

If you had a severe medical emergency, who would you call to help with the non-medical parts of the emergency? If your home burned down, where would you stay? How strong is your support group? Are you part of others’ support groups?

A while back, my local church received word of a couple and their young adult daughter who were trying to move into our town from the North West. The parents were approaching 60, the wife had just had two knee surgeries, and the husband had recently been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. They had been evicted from their apartment, their stuff left in boxes in the hallway, and the locks had been changed.

Despite having lived in their town for over 15 years, they had no friends or family willing to help them. The daughter had met a guy online, and after they were kicked out, she decided to move to the South to live with him. She saw it as her best option. Her parents decided they would follow.

My church organized some assistance in getting the couple into an apartment in town. As I lovingly served to make the tiny apartment as clean and comfortable as possible with the donated items, I couldn’t help but think about this couple. They both had a history of drug abuse, couldn’t keep a steady job, and now were at a very scary time in their life, and they desperately needed a support system. Unfortunately, they had burned and exhausted all the people who had tried to love them in the past.

Therapist Esther Perel said:

“Life will present you with unexpected opportunities, and you won’t always know in advance which are the important moments. Above all, it’s the quality of your relationships that will determine the quality of your life. Invest in your connections, even those that seem inconsequential.”

Of all the things you ever invest in, healthy relationships are the most important.

There is a HIGH correlation between having weak or toxic relationships among people having chronic financial problems. Healthy, loving relationships are so important for your financial success. Not only because your support group catches you when you fall, but because they motivate you to rise up and become the best provider and financial steward that you can.

A support structure thrives with healthy boundaries. Poor boundaries break it down. Someone may be left paying for things they have no business paying for, lending money that contaminates the relationship, or skipping opportunities that would have produced important financial fruits.

~Contact.FirstName~, do you have close relationships that you invest in regularly? Does love come with emotional IOU’s? Is the give-and-take imbalanced with those you love? Are there habits that undermine your financial success or those whom support you?

Do you avoid clear conversation with someone about something that hurts you, and then behave in resentful or passive aggressive ways? Are you surrounded by people who make you feel terrible, sabotage your goals, or violate your boundaries? Are you behaving this way toward others?

Well, it may surprise you that a financial coach has any business advising you on boundaries, but money and healthy boundaries are a MUST. And boundaries happen to be one of my super powers.

I said it before and I will say it again, “healthy, loving relationships are so important for your financial success.”

Are you ready to learn healthy boundaries around money and build a support group that synergizes love and financial success?

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Published by Ruth Liebel

I am a mother of 4, wife of a surgeon and soldier, girl of the Southwest but I love The South. I am a formally educated financial counselor and a Ramsey Preferred Coach. I love my work and want to empower others to live abundantly through budget, boundaries, and beliefs. What can I help you accomplish today?