It Won’t Let Me Do It!

My three-year-old is learning to dress himself. He brings his clothes to me, chucks them at my head, and joyfully asks me to put them on him. I consistently respond with the gentle encouragement, “You can do it.” He then picks up an article and fiddles with it for a moment before asking, “This way? Or this way?” as he rotates the clothing to reveal two possible attack strategies. I give him my informed opinion. Usually he goes with it but sometimes he is doubtful and goes another way. We let his way play out all day long.

Currently, he is working on socks. Tricky little things, aren’t they? His socks have gray soles that he can use as a guide to orient his socks for a nice heel fit. The gray guides help him to navigate a confusing situation, but he still brings them to me frequently and declares in defeat, “They won’t let me do it!”

He also struggles with button-up shirts. Getting the shirt around his back to where his second arm can reach back and slide into its place requires advanced dressing skills, but he is still learning the basics. And those buttons! This morning he came in while I was getting myself ready, threw his shirtless self on the bathroom floor, and growled through clenched teeth, “It won’t let me do it!”

I helped him put the correct sleeve over his beginning arm and then wrapped the shirt around his back while he searched for the other sleeve hole.

“I did it!” he rejoiced as I buttoned up the front for him.

If you had to explain to my son why other people running around with their socks on properly, shirt on front-ways, and underwear right-side-out, would you tell him that they are just luckier than him? That their clothing is just more cooperative than his? Of course not.

Or could it be that my son’s perspective needs to grow and his skillset develop so that he can accomplish his goals? Now you’re on to something.

Do you see how this story translates to how Americans manage their finances? And how you manage your personal finances?

Most people in America are like my son–they work hard and try everything they can, but still feel frustrated with their money and believe, “It won’t let me do it.” Do you feel that way?

I help people every day learn to be financially confident and independent. Learning the skills and mindsets necessary for personal success is easier than you think, especially if you have a guide who has mastered the tricky parts.

Would you like to improve your personal finance skills and money mindsets?

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Published by Ruth Liebel

I am a mother of 4, wife of a surgeon and soldier, girl of the Southwest but I love The South. I am a formally educated financial counselor and a Ramsey Preferred Coach. I love my work and want to empower others to live abundantly through budget, boundaries, and beliefs. What can I help you accomplish today?