He stood looking at the large family portrait hanging over the piano in the living room. His young face admired the small faces staring back. He admired my husband’s muscular arms and the baby’s naked toes. He asked a couple questions about the picture and then stopped suddenly. “Wait, are you married?!”
“Yes,” I replied, a little confused by his tone.
“Wow,” he said. And then he softly added in amazement, “I’ve never met anyone who was married before.”
His tone and bewildered expression revealed everything. In his world, the idea that marriage was still alive and obtainable was mythological; he was in the presence of a real-life unicorn. His surprise completely stunned me. It had never occurred to me that marriage could fall into the realm of mythical folklore.
This young boy and I grew up in the same marriage-OBSESSED state. We lived in the exact same neighborhood. We checked the same demographic boxes. And, despite having traveled to and lived in underdeveloped countries, I found myself in one of the most foreign experiences I have ever had.
I was slapped upside the head with an epiphany.
Sometimes what keeps people from working for something great is not a lack of information about what something is or how to accomplish it. Nor it is a matter of “wanting” or “not wanting.” Sometimes the thing that holds us back from reaching for something wonderful is that our lack of cultural or personal exposure to success in an area creates an insulated world that shields us even more from success. It is then believed that success in a given area is impossible or at least “impossible for me” and, therefore, not even a valid pursuit.
Three beliefs are essential for achieving something:
1. It is possible to achieve.
2. It is possible for me achieve.
3. It is worth it.
I have come to see (and LOVE) the stunned look on clients’ faces as they realize a life without debt and a life with money–LOTS of money–IS possible AND probable to achieve. Too many people believe that high income or financial success is just not in their cards. It is simply too high, too hard, or too imaginary. Sad. What a limiting belief!
Just like beginning and maintaining a successful marriage, wealth-creation takes work but is possible for EVERYONE. Yep, even for YOU. One of the most powerful factors in achieving a goal is your support system. Good support will help you believe in your goal, hold you accountable when you give in to excuses, and help you find solutions when things get tough. Because life always gets tough. For everyone.
Do you believe that the” little man getting ahead” is a fairy tale? Do you believe that YOU getting ahead is a fairytale?
Maybe you need a different support group.
Take a few minutes and read this great article about the influence those around you have on your life and success.
Are the voices most prevalent in your life inspiring you to reach your potential as a financial manager? Or are they stuck in the same ruts and limiting beliefs as you are?
Would you like a financial coach to support you in achieving YOUR financial fairy tale?
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